Leadership & Sphere of Influence

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Life is a gift. Well then, are we aware that we make ourselves miserable for things we cannot control? There are many things we cannot control but real problems are in fact not things we cannot control. Real problems come out when we are ineffective despite the fact that we actually have the power to make the change. As Kurt Vonnegut says; “Enjoy the little things in life, because one day you will look back and realize they were the big things”

Leadership first starts with in our personal space. When we cannot manage dilemmas, conflicts and emotions the situations and environments starts to rule our world. Dilemma often emerges to meet our own expectations and others. If we cannot build mutual benefit relation then unnecessary sacrifices, dominant approaches and/ or indifference and/or disinterest surfaces. And naturally, this negative attitude harms the organisation and human resources.

Let me share few concerns I tend to hear quite often:

-I love the people in my team. They all have unique qualities. However if my boss keeps treating me inconsiderately like this, I may not find the energy essential for developing my team.

-Any minor flaw upsets me, even though everything is going right. I cannot coordinate my team. My new appointed assistant is calmer and practical. I feel insufficient when looking at her/him. This enervation has caused me to bring work problems to home. As if everything is great at home. I know I will end up regretting but quitting work and sparing some time for myself and my family seems like the best choice.

-I keep presenting information about new areas to my boss. But my boss pays no attention to my ideas regarding the development of my department for three years. I am bored I guess. I know I will regret it but I think I will support peoples search since I believe people who consistently developing deserve better places.

-I keep my glass full so others can also benefit. When my glass is empty I refill it. I know I will end up regretting but I am tired of finding the resources. I am going to leave the glass empty from now on. They can find their water from somewhere else.

-He/ She does not understand me. Looking at my performance level I deserve better. What is his/her expectation? He/She didn’t even say good morning yesterday, when I walked into his/her room; he/she didn’t even look at me. We get the same pay; I work harder than him/her. He wants things from me and doesn’t even say thank you. The new comer must be a connection. I guess he/she already discarded me. I wish there was more support.

Managers with self-leadership skills are:
– not captive of ones feelings
– focuses on people and meaning that will be co-created
– doesn’t make sudden and unplanned decisions
– strive to be determent and forward looking even though everything goes wrong
– result oriented
– cares about people’s ideas and brings solutions
– sees into the future, takes risks
– knows how to do the job, even though he/she does not do the job in practice
– notices things that nobody else notices
– knows people he/she works with and influences them.
– keeps his/her loyalty to his/her organisation

Leader is expected to bring the organisation to meet its targets and efficient. In order to benefit your organisation, faith and effort to constant development should be established, knowing oneself and self-acceptance is needed.

In other words; people are not born leaders, people learn to be leaders as they climb the steps one by one. You can choose to be a leader. It is about how you use information and experiences gathered in your journey since your childhood.

The followers expect the leader to show them respect, find solutions to their problems, motivate the team and be informed. They hope to be valued, and receive mutual benefit. Leaders realise this through “empathy”, “strategic vision”, and “effective communication”, “team management”, “ delegation ” and “feedback”.

Through these graphics we offer recruitment, development, succession planning, employee engagement and retention road maps for individuals and teams. Harrison Assessments International uses the trademark Paradox Technology analysis methods. Graphs above display some of the required traits for leadership.

With love,


Personal Note: I would like to thank Defne Akman for the translation of this essay.

Beat stress at work

Change is an indispensible part of our lives that forces us to deal with the Notion of uncertainty. We react differently to change in order to maintain our emotional balance and productivity. We are human after all and our emotions inside have certain logic and cause and effect relation. However stress is the most important outcome that change brings into existence in our bodies.

Even though being aware of our emotions and referring to them is a healthy approach, not being able to manage our emotions in the times of stress results us to be overwhelmed with stress. Stress is a reaction that our bodies take to the environment, change and events on life. Stress causes a lot more diseases than modern medicine encounters. And we still keep on embracing it instead of beating it, even though we know stress is bad for health. Everybody has a limit. Not everyone tolerates the stress same way.

In business world, stress experienced by the work force effects both individual and team and organisations productivity extremely negative. If the employees are stressful, they tend to behave more different compared to normal circumstances. When stressful, we behave in a way where others have difficulty to understand. This behaviour reflects upon all our relationship and to the organisation like a virus. When stress fades if we can question ourselves, we may try to mend the broken pieces. Or we may choose to cut off communication and withdraw.

It is our responsibility as HR professionals and managers at organisations to deal with people who had problems in labour relations and stress behaviour at organisation, to coach them to a healthier psychology and mend the broken relationships. In the act of decreasing productivity, unavoidable course of events we may have to give a warning and/or disqualify individual for their negative behaviours.

It is possible to foresee these situations by making analysis regarding coping with stress. Let’s take a look at a management team that works together.

DefneElif (B) is at the “Stressed Achievement” quadrant. Her development area is to be in the “Poised Achievement” quadrant. Elif is recipient to stress but even though she is taken with stress she can perform. Most important factor in her performance is Elif’s tolerating pressure trait score is high. In brief if Elif doesn’t have a challenging target, she can mess around do other things until the deadline. Only when deadline approaches she can have a dominant energy to meet the target in a flash. But when she is bored with oppression, she can feel tired, would like to pull away, leave unfinished business. Properly speaking, Elif’s high score in not only “Tolerance to Pressure” but “Managing Stress Successfully” and “Ease” demonstrates she can do “Stress Management” successfully. As we know we cannot give Elif the entire responsibility expecting her to do the job somehow. She has a development area in “Balanced Success”.

Everyone is different from one another. If you take into account that each employee can react totally different under stress and fight back the stress, this can help you with better management.

My next article will be about personal stress areas.

Personal Note: I would like to thank Defne Akman for the translation of this essay.

With Love,




Within this study, can you tell me about a stress you experienced at work? You can e-mail me, your inquiries will be treated anonymously. I will respond and assess each incident in its own right, anonymously here.